Nice guys often finish last. In this powerful lecture, John Bradshaw exposes the hidden and frequently destructive forces behind the façade of being the "nice guy." From our earliest years we learn that we are rewarded with acceptance for being "nice," at the expense of being denied the expression of our true feelings, of being who we really are.
Ultimately, we become the actor in a role of the "nice guy" or "sweetheart." Bradshaw explains how such behavior can destroy relationships and intimacy by preventing honest connection with others. It creates loneliness, wherein the victim is the nice person. In its ultimate destructive form, it erupts into rage or spontaneous acts of violence, or can be internalized in the form of emotional or physical illness.
Finally, Bradshaw offers practical insights into how we can learn to be kind but firmly direct about how we feel, and then find that place in our lives where we can be ourselves.
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